Sunday, 29 June 2008
Loss of Potential
I went to a Young Single Adult Fireside/Family Home Evening tonight. It's held once a month at 7.00 in the evening, hosted by a family in the Maldon Ward. They're a lovely couple, and have the patience of Saints to have 8-12 YSAs crash their living room once a month. Anyway, I was looking around at the mix of YSAs, and was thinking, this is shocking! There were 4 ladies there, including me, and 5 men. The ladies include a PhD Student/part time lecturer (me), High School Music Teacher, HR Director, and Social Worker. All of them are bright, capable, stunning (seriously, all 3 of the other ladies there are gorgeous!) and just generally stellar women. The men are much less impressive. They're all rather underachieving with little or no ambition. Well, one of them is a bit more impressive than that. He's just been signed by a major music label, and improving all the time. So one who's on the ball. However, the rest were shockingly lost. I also work with the Youth of the Church. In that capacity, I get to see the next generation in their formative years. The young men and women I see there are so impressive. They've got such shine and excitement and drive. And yet, I look around at Men just 10 years older and think, What happened? Where did the conviction, the drive, the enthusiasm go? These same men were once the rising generation. And I'm sure their leaders looked at them in the same way I look at the current generation. Somewhere along the line they got lost. Obviously not all the Young Men lose their shine. But my question is, where are they? I look around at the (so called) eligible men in any given ward and think, I wouldn't spend 10 minutes alone with any of these men, much less the rest of my life! I just keep thinking that Bonnie Tyler had the right question: Where have all the good men gone?